Some days I wonder how my parents made it through 4 teenagers. I am only on my first of three and am questioning how I will make it to the next two. Teens bring you such a mix of feelings, from joy for the person they have become, to all out anger at that teen attitude. I feel everday that the saying - Teenagers are Gods way of preparing us for our children to leave home - is oh SO TRUE! Just an FYI God - I AM PREPARED (at least today at this very moment!)
For just a minute about a month ago my soon to be 19 year old son Anthony was talking about moving out with his girlfriend. Not the most ideal living situation, but it is so hard in this day and age to move out, and almost all of his friends are living with girls. So many feelings passed by, from that letting him go feeling, to feeling guilty for being a little happy, to that question of have we prepared him to experience real life. But then sadly/glady that balloon was burst, now he wants to save up money (a good thing) before he goes. As I watch all those many plans put to the back again, ie: move the other two kids up a room, to possibly having my own office/space... Oh well what is a few more months in the big scheme of things.
I just hope we can make it to the move out stage in one piece. I try not to make generalizations, so I will just say that my teenager is a know-it-all kind of guy. (Don't tell my husband but he come by it legitimately, wink, wink.) He would also like to be the boss/parent of his sibilings, even when we the parents are around. That is what happens when you are the oldest, there are 7 and 10 years between him and his brother and sister respectively, so he did alot of the babysitting. I find it amusing that even at these age gaps the arguments still happen.
Our latest argument (other than the everyday kind) is over our new puppy, who just happened to chew the seat off of the Anthony's jet ski.....Oops! Life sucks sometimes and things happen. While not the end of the world I am sure it seemed like it at the exact time for Anthony. Of course being mom I get the brunt of the anger, I do know why his Dad dosen't, but not fair!!! Sometimes I am an adult, and act accordingly,....but that inner child wanting to scream back pops out of me at other times. As I am sure you can guess, this is one of those times. I really dislike it when I let that happen, and always feel super guilty later (especially when I scream you can move out anytime!! and mean it at that exact moment!)
While this argument is still in the resolving itself stages, we have come to an agreement that neither of us will be speaking that way to each other again in that way (or at least try our very hardest). He will not make demands that we get rid of that dog right this minute! and will follow through with moving his jet ski out of the dogs yard. While I will come to some kind of arrangement to help pay for the new seat and keep my inner child inside where she belongs (at least for today).
Here is to another day in life, and teaching myself to celebrate making it through both the big and small things.
For just a minute about a month ago my soon to be 19 year old son Anthony was talking about moving out with his girlfriend. Not the most ideal living situation, but it is so hard in this day and age to move out, and almost all of his friends are living with girls. So many feelings passed by, from that letting him go feeling, to feeling guilty for being a little happy, to that question of have we prepared him to experience real life. But then sadly/glady that balloon was burst, now he wants to save up money (a good thing) before he goes. As I watch all those many plans put to the back again, ie: move the other two kids up a room, to possibly having my own office/space... Oh well what is a few more months in the big scheme of things.
I just hope we can make it to the move out stage in one piece. I try not to make generalizations, so I will just say that my teenager is a know-it-all kind of guy. (Don't tell my husband but he come by it legitimately, wink, wink.) He would also like to be the boss/parent of his sibilings, even when we the parents are around. That is what happens when you are the oldest, there are 7 and 10 years between him and his brother and sister respectively, so he did alot of the babysitting. I find it amusing that even at these age gaps the arguments still happen.
Our latest argument (other than the everyday kind) is over our new puppy, who just happened to chew the seat off of the Anthony's jet ski.....Oops! Life sucks sometimes and things happen. While not the end of the world I am sure it seemed like it at the exact time for Anthony. Of course being mom I get the brunt of the anger, I do know why his Dad dosen't, but not fair!!! Sometimes I am an adult, and act accordingly,....but that inner child wanting to scream back pops out of me at other times. As I am sure you can guess, this is one of those times. I really dislike it when I let that happen, and always feel super guilty later (especially when I scream you can move out anytime!! and mean it at that exact moment!)
While this argument is still in the resolving itself stages, we have come to an agreement that neither of us will be speaking that way to each other again in that way (or at least try our very hardest). He will not make demands that we get rid of that dog right this minute! and will follow through with moving his jet ski out of the dogs yard. While I will come to some kind of arrangement to help pay for the new seat and keep my inner child inside where she belongs (at least for today).
Here is to another day in life, and teaching myself to celebrate making it through both the big and small things.
